We can respond in different ways when someone wrongs us: we can ignore the offense, cut off the offender, announce our anger or hurt, or be equally offensive. Perhaps you have tried each of these. Jesus sets out another way for his disciples. First, go to the person and point out the failure; if that doesn’t work, take another with you; if that doesn’t work, “refer it to the church.” And if that doesn’t work, “treat the person as you would a Gentile or a tax collector.”
This last remark could sound like even Jesus put limits on what you had to do to bring a person around, especially since tax collectors were generally held in contempt and Gentiles kept at a distance. But this wasn’t so for Jesus; these were the very ones he reached out to. So, his last remark indicates that you never stop trying to win over another.
These words are part of Jesus’ fourth speech in Matthew’s Gospel, focused on life within the community of his followers. They are to be a community of reconciliation. This call to engage in fraternal correction has got to be one of the more difficult aspects of living out the way of Jesus, by loving others enough to tell them when they are committing a wrong. It’s frequently much easier to let it slide or move away from the person altogether.
Paul’s exhortation to “owe nothing to anyone, except to love one another” finds fulfillment in this difficult area of fraternal correction. Such love fulfills the law.
Consider/Discuss
- How do you react when someone wrongs you?
- Do you see any value in the process Jesus sets out here?
- Do you accept that being a church community means correcting those who do wrong?
Responding to the Word
We may need to ask God for the courage to face those who have wronged us and tell them of their failure. We pray to the Spirit whose work is to bring about unity, strengthening the bonds of love between all disciples so that this love may extend to all creation.